When you were a kid, did you endlessly ask “Why”? Do you have kids that never stop doing that to you? You tell them to clean their room and they keep asking “Why?”. They just keep asking “Why?”, “Why?” and “Why?” until you get really annoyed and snap “JUST GO TO YOUR ROOM AND CLEAN IT NOW!” If you’re not guilty of this yourself, I’m sure you know someone who is.
That was just one example of how we are taught to stop asking “Why?” every single day. And it’s a real tragedy because it conditions us to stop questioning and being inquisitive. It conditions us to just accept the status quo and things cannot be changed.
As most people grow into adults, they tend to lose the visions of their dreams, they lose hope, they lose their sense of freedom, they become apathetic, and they get into comfort zones because they’ve been conditioned to accept that this is “their lot” in life and there’s no way to change it. There is no sense of self-worth. [click to continue…]
So many people do not succeed because they are crippled by the fear of failure and the worry that comes with it. Some people want to find every avenue that can go wrong and are crippled by analysis paralysis. Others are afraid to embarrass themselves in front of their friends. While some (myself included) are so emotionally attached to the money they make from their hard work that they can’t bear the thought of losing it.
Before I go on, I have a couple of quotes from two famous sports stars which I think is very appropriate.
Wayne Gretzky, the famous Canadian Ice Hockey player once said: “You miss 100% of the shots that you don’t take in life.”
Michael Jordan once said: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve most almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been entrusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over, and over, and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
These two famous sports people realised something that most people don’t. And that is, to be successful in business and life, you just have to stop worrying about everything and just go for it. [click to continue…]
A lot of people have a fear of failure, and they are crippled by the thought of their venture not working out and suffering the humiliation that comes with it. A fear of failure, while not easy to overcome, can be conquered through persistent effort and learning from experience.
However there’s another fear that for most people, is even more limiting than the fear of failure. And that is the fear of success. It’s very counter intuitive to think that a person could be afraid of success, but if they get caught up in worrying about becoming successful, then it’s a downward spiral to self sabotage.
“What if I just make it?”… Some people can become petrified thinking about it. The fear of success really has more to do with the fear of change rather than anything else. [click to continue…]
Fear is one of the most powerful, if not the most powerful of negative emotions that will corrupt our success journey. We can literally psych ourselves out with fear and never achieve anything. And if we don’t learn to consciously control fear, it will subconsciously control us.
Fear is a primal instinct that is actually designed to serve us, rather than hinder us. We come wired with two fear mechanisms. One of them is designed to make us take massive action. The other is designed to make us think before we act.
We are essentially the same hunter gatherer human beings that roamed the world millions of years ago. Back then there big animals and predators that we needed to be on the look out for. If a sabre-tooth tiger came charging at us, our fear mechanism would jump into overdrive, giving us an adrenaline rush and make us run in order to not get harmed by the beast that was chasing us. [click to continue…]
If you look at the physics of an explosion, a lot of heat is generated in a very short period of time, creating a shock wave that’s loud and travels outwards, blowing everything in its path to bits. Whatever is exploded ends up burnt and in thousands of tiny bits and pieces that can NEVER be put back together again.
Explosions cause irreversible damage. That’s a physical law of the universe. It’s also a law of the business world. Countless business have failed because their growth was unsustainable, fueled by greed and ego. And you can’t put it back together after it crashes and burns because your reputation has also “exploded”. You have to start all over again.
It’s unfortunate that many people come into network marketing expecting to get rich quick. This is a wonderful industry of personal development and cultivating leadership. But the way it is often promoted, it attracts desperate people who will inevitably fail. The last thing these people ever need is a business opportunity. [click to continue…]
Everybody in network marketing has heard the cliche “this is a business of duplication.” Personally, I think this catchphrase has been taken way out of contest and evolved into a culture, a mindset that limits the creativity of the individuals who are working to build themselves a profitable business. In other words, I think “duplication” is a bunch of crap!
In a large, traditional network marketing company I used to be with, I was on the “tape of the week” program. I remember listening to a CD titled “Duplication” by a well known leader in that company. I remember hearing him say something along the lines of “if it doesn’t work for everybody, it doesn’t work for anybody!”
Well, in this company, the method of doing the business was make a list of friends and family, invite them to a meeting (but sshh… don’t tell them what it is, leave them hanging), give them a few CD’s to listen to and hopefully, they’ll get a warm fuzzy feeling about the business and want to sign up. [click to continue…]
